Shift Your Focus: Singleness

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33


The single Christian must grab hold of this scripture to seek the kingdom of God FIRST and then all of these things will be added to us. It’s a simple, understandable request, but it must take root in our heart and mind in order for it to put into action. If we cannot put God first in our lives when we are single then we surely won’t be able to do it when we have the distraction of a relationship. It is only when we pursue God and are found full in Him that all these things will be added.


One day while driving I was talking with the Lord and I realized I wanted to be in a relationship so much that I was pursing it above my relationship with God. I wasn’t seeking Him first and or trusting Him for the things to be added. The Holy Spirit gently reminded me that I was pursuing a relationship that I was not ready for. There were things He was doing in me now that would prepare me for a better marriage someday. In a sermon series on dating Andy Stanley posed this question, “Are you the person that the person you are looking for is looking for?” The reality is, the more Christ-like I become, the better spouse I can one day be.


The focus of a single Christian shouldn’t be the earthly relationship that we don’t yet have. It should be our eternal relationship that will bring all things to fullness. What is your main focus? I want to challenge you to shift your focus from the relationship you want to the relationship you have that is above all others! Allow Jesus to mold you into the best you while your future spouse is becoming the best them. Pursue Jesus in the waiting!